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If Your Friend has done these Few things for you in this Zindagi.. Never Let Them GO!

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”~ Lisa Kleypas, Blue Eyed Devil

If Your Friend/ Philosopher Or Guide does any or all of these things.. Never Ever Let them go:

  • Calming Influence : Even a Well Balanced person occasionally loses their cool. We all have the ability at times to become very emotional and tense owing to sometimes intrinsic reasons and sometimes because of what’s going on around us and we cant quite control it. If you’re feeling anxiety, rage, sadness or just heavy stress, a person who can see you struggling and knows how to COMFORT you is a definite keeper
  • Understanding Your Humour: Laughter is a quintessential part of life, not only as a delightful cherry-on-top during good times, but also as a way of coping when things are hard or going badly. If you have someone in your life who understands your particular brand of HUMOUR be it Sarcasm, Rhetoric or Burn filled and can add, share, compliment and have fun in the laughter with you, hold on tight!
  • Common Interests/Hobbies: Everyone needs some HOBBIES in their life. The Fun and leisure activities we do outside of work and career allow us to unwind and release stress and tensions that build up from the pressures of the daily grind.When your Friend can be a part of these passions and activities and enjoy them right along with you, everybody wins.
  • Mutual Respect: Respect for each other is the trivial part of any good bond and relationship. It is built by honesty, reliability and trust. If both can truly RESPECT each other as people, even in the heat of a difficult argument or stubborn disagreement, the relationship will be Strong and almost unbreakable.
  • Accountability: In a Friendship, One should always do their best to support the other and embrace whatever their Friend chooses to do, but sometimes the best and healthiest way to support someone is to be HONEST with them and call a spade.. A Spade. A True Friend would never lie to you simply to spare your feelings or avoid confrontation. If someone really loves you, they’ll call you on your Possible Mistakes, and if you really love them back, you should be receptive to their criticism and know that it comes from True caring and concern.

am writing about Jug in my life for the #DearZindagi activity at BlogAdda. The Person surely knows who he is.. 😉 

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THIS Is The Simple Reason Why We Lose Interest In People Who Show Too Much Interest In Us

So, why then do we feel uninterested in the partners who see this “Better ness” in us? The answer lies in the depths of our being.

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On a very deep level, there’s a small part of each one of us that believes we are not worthy of being loved. It is this insecurity that makes you place a lesser value on yourself.

So, when a person desires this lesser value, we naturally place a lesser value on them.

The natural train of thought eventually reaches the conclusion of “there must be something wrong with you for liking someone like me.”

We do not live comfortably with this mindset. We live comfortably in “the chase” of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.

That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we’d rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.

As we can see, the natural inclination to avoid those who are interested in you happens for two main reasons: the need to better our offspring by partnering with someone who is “better,” and our own insecurities about how worthy we are of love.

The even bigger question now is: how can we use this understanding to better our lives and well-being? Having learned this, how many of us will start to give others a chance in lieu of rejection?

The ego is a hard thing to overcome, but if we can, we open ourselves up to a whole new realm of thinking.

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How many of us will strive to overcome insecurities for a chance at happiness?

Based on a Relationship article i came across at->

http://www.higherperspectives.com/lose-interest-2080894182.html?page=2

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