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Pablo Neruda’s Brilliant but Sad Quote!

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THIS Is The Simple Reason Why We Lose Interest In People Who Show Too Much Interest In Us

So, why then do we feel uninterested in the partners who see this “Better ness” in us? The answer lies in the depths of our being.

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On a very deep level, there’s a small part of each one of us that believes we are not worthy of being loved. It is this insecurity that makes you place a lesser value on yourself.

So, when a person desires this lesser value, we naturally place a lesser value on them.

The natural train of thought eventually reaches the conclusion of “there must be something wrong with you for liking someone like me.”

We do not live comfortably with this mindset. We live comfortably in “the chase” of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.

That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we’d rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.

As we can see, the natural inclination to avoid those who are interested in you happens for two main reasons: the need to better our offspring by partnering with someone who is “better,” and our own insecurities about how worthy we are of love.

The even bigger question now is: how can we use this understanding to better our lives and well-being? Having learned this, how many of us will start to give others a chance in lieu of rejection?

The ego is a hard thing to overcome, but if we can, we open ourselves up to a whole new realm of thinking.

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How many of us will strive to overcome insecurities for a chance at happiness?

Based on a Relationship article i came across at->

http://www.higherperspectives.com/lose-interest-2080894182.html?page=2

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Proposal at Moonrise!!

Soothing Breeze, A Glistening Beach,

The Dancing water and the Shining sky.

I raise my Toes to their utmost reach,

To Dance without a tune.. Don’t ask Why.

Flower petals in such Fresh Flowing Winds,

The Setting Sun & The Rising Moon..

look like Butterflies flapping their Beautiful Wings,

I eagerly await the Time, to meet you soon.

You shine in My Vision of you with all your Light,

Your Smile makes me adore your incoming wink..

My Love for you instantly takes a flight,

Like a White orchid suddenly turns blushing pink.

Even from a distance, You still amidst the crowds.

My Heart beats faster as the sun bids adieu

I collect my thoughts, I choose my words..

For I Wanna tell you today, How much I Love You!

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“Every Day You Play” By Pablo Neruda

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Every day you play with the light of the universe.
Subtle visitor, you arrive in the flower and the water.
You are more than this white head that I hold tightly
as a cluster of fruit, every day, between my hands.

You are like nobody since I love you.
Let me spread you out among yellow garlands.
Who writes your name in letters of smoke among the stars of the south?
Oh let me remember you as you were before you existed.

Suddenly the wind howls and bangs at my shut window.
The sky is a net crammed with shadowy fish.
Here all the winds let go sooner or later, all of them.
The rain takes off her clothes.

The birds go by, fleeing.
The wind. The wind.
I can contend only against the power of men.
The storm whirls dark leaves
and turns loose all the boats that were moored last night to the sky.

You are here. Oh, you do not run away.
You will answer me to the last cry.
Cling to me as though you were frightened.
Even so, at one time a strange shadow ran through your eyes.

Now, now too, little one, you bring me honeysuckle,
and even your breasts smell of it.
While the sad wind goes slaughtering butterflies
I love you, and my happiness bites the plum of your mouth.

How you must have suffered getting accustomed to me,
my savage, solitary soul, my name that sends them all running.
So many times we have seen the morning star burn, kissing our eyes,
and over our heads the gray light unwind in turning fans.

My words rained over you, stroking you.
A long time I have loved the sunned mother-of-pearl of your body.
I go so far as to think that you own the universe.
I will bring you happy flowers from the mountains, bluebells,
dark hazels, and rustic baskets of kisses.
I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees.

Pablo Neruda

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Christmas Gift Suggestions!

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‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present ..’

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Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same
hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an
hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from
his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on
his back. The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their
homes, their jobs, their involvement in the
military service, where they had been on
vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the
window could sit up, he would pass the time by
describing to his roommate all the things he could
see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those
one hour periods where his world would be
broadened and enlivened by all the activity and
colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while
children sailed their model boats. Young lovers
walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour
and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen
in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in
exquisite details, the man on the other side of
the room would close his eyes and imagine this
picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window
described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band –
he could see it in his mind’s eye as the
gentleman by the window portrayed it with
descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring
water for their baths only to find the lifeless body
of the man by the window, who had died
peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital
attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man
asked if he could be moved next to the window.
The nurse was happy to make the switch, and
after making sure he was comfortable, she left
him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one
elbow to take his first look at the real world
outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window
besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have
compelled his deceased roommate who had
described such wonderful things outside this
window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and
could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage
you.’

Epilogue:
There is tremendous happiness in making others
happy, despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness
when shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things
you have that money can’t buy.
‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The
Present .’

The origin of this letter is unknown.

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Wonderful Ad Advocating the Need for Change in Societal Outlook towards Re-Marriage Feat. Minissha for Femina!

 

Brilliant Concept showing the Love, Emotional attachment and the Need to Move-On Post Death as Life doesn’t Stop there.  Wonderful Ad showing the Understanding Grown Up Daughter.. who is Happy to see Her Mother Re-Marry!

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Quote

“Close some doors today. not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they lead you nowhere..”~ Paulo Coelho

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Not Your Average Love Story!

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Late in the Day, a WhatsApp notification came on Rajeev’s New Smart Phone. He wasn’t the most Tech-savvy but knew and cared just about enough to keep up with his generation. He was studying as his final year Exams for MBA course were near, so gave the WhatsApp notification a miss, and thought to himself that he’d check it a bit later.

After finishing his Studies for the day, He checked his phone for notifications which included 5 facebook notifications and 3 WhatsApp Messages. He quickly went through them all, only to find a strange message from an unknown number, He added the number to his safe list on whatsapp to see who actually had sent the message to him. It read, “Hey Wassup? Howdy.. Wanna Meet up again for a Movie tonight?” from a Pretty looking Female in the Display Pic, whom he had never met.

Was this a Prank by some of his Friends? What if it’s a case of Mistaken identity because his Whatsapp profile did not include a Display Pic or Name of himself, as he didn’t really care about it.. Nonetheless, He mustered up Courage beyond his Over and Above shy self to reply back politely.. “Who is this?” Soon came the reply, “Sweetheart, Its Neha, Don’t you remember we met at Mahi’s Birthday Bash yesterday..?” He again texted back “I Don’t know any Mahi or Neha? My Name is Rajeev.. I think your looking for a different person.” Neha replied “Oooopppss!! Sorry, I thought this was Farhan’s number..”

Rajeev replied “No it isn’t.” The technology created conversation ended on that note, but for a strange reason, unlike ever in the Past, Rajeev saved her number and name to his contact list and on Whatsapp too.  It was possibly her Mysterious Charm that led him to do this..

Once in the Day, he started to look at the Display Pic of This Really stunning Looking Female along with her status, but would never message her. He was a Principled Guy from a Wealthy South Delhi Based Jain Family, with Values, Traditions and Aesthetics well mixed in his system. Rajeev is a Good Looking Guy who prioritized his Studies and Work Ethics and would often not reciprocate Passes from the Opposite Sex, because he had it set in his Mind that He’d Marry the Girl his Parents approve and find for him.

Nonetheless, We may call it infatuation or intrigue, soon the daily affair of checking her rapid change of Display Pics and Status became an hourly one, He began to take more and more interest in it all. This went on for a few months, meanwhile he completed his MBA with 1st grade distinction and The Grandfather started stressing that he’s growing Old and wishes to see his Eldest and Favorite Grand Son’s Wife real soon.

 

“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”~ Sarah Dessen

 

He tried to reason with his Grandfather but to no avail and soon began the search for his Bride-to-be.  Now, Rajeev with every Possible meeting of searching for his bride to be began to get anxious, he began to compare the Prospective Brides with Neha, who was now seen as His Ultimate Girl.. A Girl who was Outgoing, Respective, Funny and Outrageously Beautiful.

So, After a Few Days he mustered up the Courage to Whatsapp Message Neha. He found that his message were getting delivered but not read by her, he searched the net about what it meant and got to know that she may have blocked him. Soon, he logged to his facebook account and searched for her, sent a message to her on facebook and Friend requested too. Two days went past and he didn’t get a response or an acknowledgment of the friend request either.

Now, he was beginning to lose it as he felt that he was madly in Love with her, but knew nothing about her besides her Name and Number, she wasn’t taking his calls or replying to his Sms’s either. He lost all hope and discussed what he could do with his Best Friend, Sumeet, who suggested that he should try his Luck on Twitter too, there everything is Open unless the Profile is restricted, he installed the twitter app on his mobile and searched users with her name. He saw a girl who quite resembled Neha, with username “L_Only_Ness”, he started to follow her on Twitter, coz. Neha’s Real name was Neha Lodha, so the user id seemed to make sense.

She would only Post Random Motivational Quotes or just talk to her Close Friends. He didn’t tweet to her as this time he wanted to get a where about of her location this time and didn’t wanna get blocked. Boom came his Luck, The Very Next Day she tweeted that she’s going to watch the Iron-Man 3 at PVR Select City Walk, this was his opportunity, he picked his Luxury Sedan and headed to the Mall to try and Catch Neha there, and possibly get to see her in Real Life and Speak to her.

He Reached the Mall and began to walk across all floors to search for her vigorously, but to No Avail. Then he thought she may have started watching the Movie so Bought tickets for the Iron Man show, but the Trouble with a Wide spread Hollywood Large Film Release in a Multiplex is that u have shows running every 15-20 minutes. None the less he tried to streak in every Audi that was playing the Movie, but it was incredibly difficult to recognize her in almost filled Halls and that too with 3D spectacles on.

He decided to give the Movie a Miss and patiently waited outside near the Exit of all the Cinema Halls. 2 shows had exited and there was No Sign of Neha, amidst all this he received a Call from his Mother enquiring about his whereabouts and suggesting him to reach a particular House in Greater Kailash, as they were to have a meeting with a Family for a Prospective Bride.

He waited another 20 minutes and left the mall disappointed, somewhat resigned to his state. He began to feel that Neha was just a Fairy and he’d never really get to speak to her, leave alone marrying her. He Left for the House at the Address mentioned by his Mother, where his Parents were already waiting for him downstairs, He quickly changed his Clothes to slightly more Formal ones and redid his Hair for an Evening of yet another evening Tea come Bride searching session, ultimately whom he’d reject or request the Girl to Reject him (as the case maybe)

 

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”~ Pablo Neruda

 

His Mother tried showing him the Pic of the girl, but he told her to keep it inside because he’d meet the Girl in Person anyways now. He met the Bride’s Parents, Greeted them as the Parents sat down chit chatting.  He revolved his Neck to see who the Girl was but she wasn’t there yet, Her Parents informed that she was late from College and duly Apologized. A Little Later the Girl arrived and his Parents began to pay compliment to her, he didn’t raise his head to see her until he heard both Parents saying “Let’s Leave the Kids alone to get to know eachother better”

Before he could raise his Head, the Girl exclaimed “Rajeeeeev… Its so Good to see you, What a surprise!” He quickly rose to see who she was, only to find Neha standing in front of him.  His eyes literally lit-up by watching one of the Most Beautiful Creations on Earth for him, she showed Spark for him too. He murmured “Some Luck, I have been Born with!!” She heard that but didn’t question, The Duo soon began to converse about Studies, Interests etc. He suddenly felt the urge to tell her that He Loved Her, before he could say anything, All Heaven Broke Lose..  She said “I Love You! Will you Marry Me?” He was all pink, with Blushed strokes extensively on his Cheeks, only to recheck if he was dreaming? He quickly said, “Neha, or whetever your Name is.. Pinch me”

 

“Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can’t get any better, it can.” ~ Nicholas Sparks

 

Neha stood Puzzled but did what he asked for. He Cross checked by looking back at her face and to his surprise it still was Neha, the Neha he Loved, the Neha he knew nothing about but was chasing since Months. He had never stalked in Life, but this Neha had made her do that too. He explained to her everything but soon after there was a knock on the Door, suggesting the Meeting should be over. He was about to get up when Neha exclaimed “Ten More Minutes mom.. Please!!”

The Parents agreed, and Neha began explaining her bit… “I Wanted to be a Model, but you know us Maru’s, the Parents never agree. The Farhan, whom I incidentally mistook for your number was a Model co-ordinator whom I had met over at a Common Friend’s Birthday” incidentally His number and Rajeev’s number were all the same barring the 98 in the start for Rajeev, whilst Farhan had 99, thus the mistake.

She continued to explain “My Father got to know around 15 odd days later that I had contacted and met Farhan, and he has those typical Marwari Businessmen attitude, he wouldn’t let me work and instead wanted me Married to an Eligible Partner in the same community, and it would be THE Husband’s choice to finally let me Work as Model or not, but as far as Dad was concerned it was a strict No-No.”

Now, Rajeev stood more Puzzled.. “How and when did you begin to Love me?” She exclaimed “Oops.. I forgot to tell you that, I fell in Love with you cause my Mom showed me Your Bio-Data and I recognized you from the number I had mistakenly whatsapp’d, Boy! Your Good Looking, cultured, well mannered and the Fact that you didn’t Jump on the texting mode to me inspite of a Girl’s inititated message, showed your Good Up-Bringing, I was impressed with that… a Lot”

“Later My Dad took a Call from Farhan on my Phone, and my Phone was confiscated for Good and replaced with a New Phone and Number along with a stern warning. I had started imagining about you as my Mother had enquired about you and was all Praise for You and Your Family.” She went on to explain that she wasn’t active on facebook coz. Her Father was on Her Friend List and would keep track/ spy her unnecessarily, thus Twitter was her choice of Weapon when it came to Social Networking. Rajeev told her that he had been following her on Twitter and had read that she was going to watch a Movie in the Day, she replied “Ya.. that was the plan but when I was starting back from my Classes, then I received the Call from my Mother that Your Parents had informed that they were coming with you today.. so I Never went for the Movie and rushed back from Naraina, where her College of Fashion designing was to her Home anticipating their 1st meeting, she got a Late because of Traffic and had to Rush to get Ready to meet her Dream Man!”

 

“A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” ~ Jane Austen

 

Everyone in The Society immensely respected Rajeev’s Grand Dad and his contribution, along with Rajeev’s Charitable Heart, Ethical workstyle and Respect envibed in his Behaviour. She had once seen Rajeev pick a Young Boy who had met with an Accident on BRT owing to a Speeding Car’s fault and how selflessly Rajeev had raised him in his arms, seated his Bloodshed Legs at the Back of His Luxury Car, without worrying about his Designer Clothes and Car’s upholstery going dirty. When she saw him doing that, she realized that this guy was not the average guy his age, and was falling in love with him every passing day in which she waited to see Rajeev, for their Pre-Marital Meeting.

*Few Days Later*

The Engagement was fixed at a Plush City Hotel, and the two of them exchanged rings and did a Ball dance together. The Beautiful Performance followed a Hug and she told Rajeev in an extremely Light tone “I Love You and will Keep Loving You all My Life..” ….

 

“Two people in Love, alone, isolated from the world, that’s Beautiful.”~ Milan Kundera

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Rumi Quote

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“Wash the dust from your soul and heart with wisdom’s water..”~ Rumi

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