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Happy Women’s Day! A Gentleman’s Perspective..

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Some wonder where her Magic lies?
She’s Cute but not the Uber Glam types.
Some attempt to ask her but barely pay attention
Sexism for “The Few” has become the convention.

The Reach of her Arms, The Sway of her Hips..
The Stride in her Walk, The Smile on Her Lips.
She walks into a Room, All Calm as you may please
Some Stand Others want to fall down on their Knees.

The Tap of her Heels, the Flow of her Hair
Men try humbly to show her how much they care.
They say a Woman should be two things: Classy and Fabulous
Why then can’t Men be Sweet, Caring and Chivalrous?

I as a Man apologize for some Morons you may encounter
The Perverts, the Cat callers, the Jerks and the Stalker
Please don’t generalize.. Not all Men are the same!
A Select few cannot bring The Entire Race to Shame.

We’ve all graduated with our Values and Come a long way
The Person we all were yesterday introduced us to Our Today.
In the End I’d like to Quote .. Bill Maher
“Women cannot complain about men..
Until they start getting better taste in them.”

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Why We Shout in Anger!

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WHY DO WE SHOUT WHEN ANGRY ????

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled ‘n asked.

‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper ‘n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other ‘n that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said.

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’

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The Power of Empathy!!

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“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”~ Mahatma Gandhi

One Day a Rich Businessman, a Kashmiri Pandit in his Mid 50’s was traveling back to his Home after successfully completing a Big Business Deal in Singapore. On his Arrival at the Indira Gandhi International Airport’s Domestic Wing, He Saw a Breaking News: All Was Lost! His House and some others in his vicinity were burnt, sparked by Communal Hatred which transgressed after the Godhra Riots. A Religious Minority who was a Majority in Kashmir had burnt Houses & Hindu’s to avenge the Death of their kin in Gujarat.

This Newsflash ushered in a series of Desperate Phone calls from him to gather knowledge of his Family consisting of a 27 Year Old Son and Early 50’s Wife! Sadly Heartache was to follow, as he had lost them both in the Dastardly act of Inhumanity.

Rajesh Handoo, in a series of moments from Pure Happiness after achieving one of his Biggest Business Deals had experienced his Deepest Malaise. All Appeared Lost…

He rushed to his Home; Vendetta in the name of Revenge was all that he had in Mind. In a week’s time he rushed to avenge the Death… With a Country made Revolver in Hand, amidst the wee hours of dawn he entered a Colony, to kill as many as he could and Die in the Process.

Near the Entrance of the Colony, A “Janazaa” was fast approaching, he hid the Gun behind his back, as they crossed him, he decided that now was the time. He Open Fired and managed to Bruise someone’s leg, in his first amateur shot. The Country made Revolver took his toll on his old hand and the hand shook vigorously, unable to fire another shot.

Within Minutes, A Pool of People rushed towards him and he was rendered invalid within minutes and was subsequently out cold. Later, when he gains his consciousness back, he finds himself in a Hospital’s ICU, only to hear stories of how The Head of that Community had got him admitted there and had cooled off the animated mob.

Rameez, 24, who was a Part time Painter, had Painted his House a few times near Diwali when all was well. He identified Rajesh and was able to empathize with his State of Perdition; he was the one who calmed the Angry Mob! Also turned out that Rameez was the Person who had lost his Arm courtesy Rajesh’s Bullet and was now permanently disabled.

Rameez was Calm, while Rajesh Looked at him with Moist Eyes which admitted his Guilt from a Moment of Madness. Rajesh’s Leg was permanently cut too, by the Angry Mob, and he realized this when he tried to get up and admit his remorseful dastardly act nonetheless Rajesh explained to him why Vendetta was at that time High on his Agenda.

Rameez in a composed tone told him “I Know Everything, My Brother.. I Forgive You! Just Promise me that You’ll help another who needs reconditioning and Help, Plz Don’t Sympathize with them Empathize always.. and You’ll understand that I really did Nothing for You The Other Day..” No More Words needed.. there was Painful Silence in the Hospital Room.

“I learn from my own daughter that you don’t have to be awake to cry.”~ Jodi Picoult

*Few Months Later*

Rajesh had begun working back, and re-located to Delhi for Horrors of Kashmir now needed to be Left where they belonged to.. in the Trash bin of His Brain’s Memory!

Work made him travel to Pune expressway and while returning back, he noticed a small Child Foster Home Centre on the Left. In a Momentary decision, he asked the Driver to Stop, take the car a little back and Enter the Foster Home. There he asked to Visit the Children..

He Expressed his Desire to Adopt a Child, Procedure began and a few month’s later he was contacted to come and select from within the Children, when all legal clearances were made. He arrived and asked if he could see all the Kids, he could possibly Adopt.

A Line-Up of 10 Kids, was brought in front of him.. but Rajesh could not find the one he was looking for within them. Rajesh saw a Shadow from the Corner of his Eye, and he got inquisitive of who it may be.. The Strict appearing Clerk to his query replied “You don’t want that Kid. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other Kids would… But still if you wish to I’ll call him over”

The 13 Year Old was Called for and he Entered the Room in a Somewhat awkward manner, hobbling towards him trying to walk as quickly as he could.. turned out the Kid was suffering from Polio, and hence had Slight Problem in Walking! Rajesh had tears in his Eyes, The Clerk said “ See.. I Told You, You’ll…” Rajesh exclaimed “May I Adopt him Please!!” The Clerk was Amazed and wanted to ask.. Rajesh instantly rolled up one Leg of his Trouser and revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the Clerk, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need Someone who understands…”

The Clerk quizzed the Kid, with a Quaint Smile.. “ Rameez, Do You Like Mr. Rajesh here?” Rameez smiled and nodded to show his Approval..

“You Don’t Need Religion to Have Morals. If You cant determine Right from Wrong then You Lack Empathy Not Religion..”~ Unknown 

The Power of Empathy!!

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Enlightenment and the Self!

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“…the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whaterver form. Both are illusions.”~ Eckhart Tolle

 

A Gentle Smile can spark a Moment
Just as A Simple Idea can Change the Wind
A Microbe brought Life to Our Planet
Just as A Blooming Flower brings the Onset of spring

A Shaking of Hands begins a Friendship
Just as A Pat on the Back can lift a Soul
A Small Book can bring in Companionship
Just as A Commitment can achieve a Goal

A Simple Quote can brief some Wisdom
Just as A Gut feeling may give Reason to Truth
A Message received can cure your Boredom
Just as A Vivid Dream can regain a Lost Fruit

A Small Step taken makes the Goal within Range
Just as An Act of Kindness is worth more Than Treasure
A Simple “Thank You” begins the Change
Just as A Divine Blessings can help us attain Pleasure…

 

“It isn’t by getting out of the world that we become enlightened, but by getting into the world…by getting so tuned in that we can ride the waves of our existence and never get tossed because we become the waves.”~ Ken Kessey

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The Chain of Love!

“Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end..”~ Daisaku Ikeda

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, near shimla highway, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Car and got out. His Old Bike was still switched on when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? What if he was a Thief? He didn’t look safe.. infact he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in a side where it’s slightly warm? By the way, my name is Rajesh Lamba.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Rajesh crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack..  Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the tyre’s nuts, she walked near and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from Mumbai and was only a Tourist passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Rajesh just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Rajesh never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way..

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Rajesh added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

*Few Months Later*

The Old Lady was in Jaipur, for her Business. She had time in hand as she drove to the Hotel for the Meeting, She Felt Hungry and saw a Small Cafe along the way,  She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made it for the meeting. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Rajesh.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid Rs. 1000. The waitress quickly went to get change for her as her Bill was only for Rs.260, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”
Under the napkin were 10 more Rs.1000 notes.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….
She knew how worried her husband was, Working Hard Day in and Day Out and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Rajesh…”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

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“When you see a good person, think of becoming like her/him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.”~ Confucious

*Based on a Small Story i had read when i was young!

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Lesson in Life!!

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend
3. And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut !

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Rumi Quote

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“Everyone sees the unseen in Proportion to the clarity of his own Heart”~ Rumi

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Rumi Quote

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“Heart is sea, Language is shore. Whatever sea includes, will hit the shore..!” ~ Rumi
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Love Between Friends..

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I think about your Grace, Your Beauty every single day,

Deep down In my Head, I Rewind, Stop & Replay..

 

You Caught my Attention, Love & took me by Surprise

You Simply Captivated me when I looked into your eyes

 

It is said that Every Perfect Gift arrives in Style from Above

You were a Present for me filled with Humilty, Beauty & Love

 

They say “Nobody’s Perfect” but I Beg to Differ Personally..!

When I See you through my Eyes, Perfection is all that I See!!

 

You Probably don’t have a Clue, Just How much I Care for you..

I remember Your Smiling Face, I Have No Idea what I was gonna say to you!

 

They say True Friendship is Rare & I Believe this to be True

Your Friendship I Love to Cherish & feel Blessed to have met you

 

Our Bond is Special, Its Very Unique in its own way

We have something irreplaceable & I Love you more Each Day!

 

True Friends are Forever, I Love the untold Bond You & I Possess

I adore your Beauty & Ur Sweetness is something that never fails to Impress!

 

You are So Dear to me, You know I’ll Love u till this World ends

I’ll always be there for u & U’ll always be one of my Best Friends.

 

Our Friendship will continue to grow, with each passing day

Coz. I feel With u by my side, everything will always be okay..!

 

This Poem is Dedicated to My Dear Friend Minissha, who celebrates her Birthday Today.. Happy Birthday Sweets..!

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“You can be everything in Life but the important thing is to be a good person…”~ Shams Tabrizi

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