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If Your Friend has done these Few things for you in this Zindagi.. Never Let Them GO!

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”~ Lisa Kleypas, Blue Eyed Devil

If Your Friend/ Philosopher Or Guide does any or all of these things.. Never Ever Let them go:

  • Calming Influence : Even a Well Balanced person occasionally loses their cool. We all have the ability at times to become very emotional and tense owing to sometimes intrinsic reasons and sometimes because of what’s going on around us and we cant quite control it. If you’re feeling anxiety, rage, sadness or just heavy stress, a person who can see you struggling and knows how to COMFORT you is a definite keeper
  • Understanding Your Humour: Laughter is a quintessential part of life, not only as a delightful cherry-on-top during good times, but also as a way of coping when things are hard or going badly. If you have someone in your life who understands your particular brand of HUMOUR be it Sarcasm, Rhetoric or Burn filled and can add, share, compliment and have fun in the laughter with you, hold on tight!
  • Common Interests/Hobbies: Everyone needs some HOBBIES in their life. The Fun and leisure activities we do outside of work and career allow us to unwind and release stress and tensions that build up from the pressures of the daily grind.When your Friend can be a part of these passions and activities and enjoy them right along with you, everybody wins.
  • Mutual Respect: Respect for each other is the trivial part of any good bond and relationship. It is built by honesty, reliability and trust. If both can truly RESPECT each other as people, even in the heat of a difficult argument or stubborn disagreement, the relationship will be Strong and almost unbreakable.
  • Accountability: In a Friendship, One should always do their best to support the other and embrace whatever their Friend chooses to do, but sometimes the best and healthiest way to support someone is to be HONEST with them and call a spade.. A Spade. A True Friend would never lie to you simply to spare your feelings or avoid confrontation. If someone really loves you, they’ll call you on your Possible Mistakes, and if you really love them back, you should be receptive to their criticism and know that it comes from True caring and concern.

am writing about Jug in my life for the #DearZindagi activity at BlogAdda. The Person surely knows who he is.. 😉 

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THIS Is The Simple Reason Why We Lose Interest In People Who Show Too Much Interest In Us

So, why then do we feel uninterested in the partners who see this “Better ness” in us? The answer lies in the depths of our being.

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On a very deep level, there’s a small part of each one of us that believes we are not worthy of being loved. It is this insecurity that makes you place a lesser value on yourself.

So, when a person desires this lesser value, we naturally place a lesser value on them.

The natural train of thought eventually reaches the conclusion of “there must be something wrong with you for liking someone like me.”

We do not live comfortably with this mindset. We live comfortably in “the chase” of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.

That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we’d rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.

As we can see, the natural inclination to avoid those who are interested in you happens for two main reasons: the need to better our offspring by partnering with someone who is “better,” and our own insecurities about how worthy we are of love.

The even bigger question now is: how can we use this understanding to better our lives and well-being? Having learned this, how many of us will start to give others a chance in lieu of rejection?

The ego is a hard thing to overcome, but if we can, we open ourselves up to a whole new realm of thinking.

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How many of us will strive to overcome insecurities for a chance at happiness?

Based on a Relationship article i came across at->

http://www.higherperspectives.com/lose-interest-2080894182.html?page=2

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A Wonderful Little Parable About Self-Belief

Once a businessman was up to his neck in debt, and could not see a way out of his situation. He was in the red to his creditors and his suppliers were demanding payment every day.

He went to the park to distract himself from his worries but all the same unhappy thoughts remained stuck in his head. The man dropped his head into his hands, casting about in his mind for ideas which could save his business from bankruptcy. Suddenly, an old man appeared before him.

“I see that something is troubling you“, he said. ”Won’t you share your thoughts with me?”

The businessman told him about his problems, about his lack of money and his bank’s refusal to give him some extra credit to promote his business. The old man listened without interrupting, and then said:

“I think that I can help you.”

He asked for the businessman’s name, wrote out a cheque and put it in the surprised man’s hand.

“Take this money. I’ll meet you here in exactly one year, and you can then give it back to me”.

The man didn’t have time to say anything before the old man had melted into the crowd.

The businessman looked at the cheque. In the space for the amount of money, the old man had written out a sum of $500,000, and below it was written the name — “John D. Rockefeller.” John D. Rockefeller. One of the richest men in the world!

“I can do away with all my problems in an instant!” he thought. But instead, the businessman decided to put the cheque in his safe. The thought of its existence alone gave him the strength he needed to work out a way to save his business.

With renewed vigour, he closed some good deals and managed to have the terms of his payments extended. He was able to make some big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and began earning money again. And a year later, he returned to the park with the cheque.

At the appointed time, the old man appeared. The businessman was ready to give the cheque back and to tell him about his successes, when a nurse came running over and grabbed the old man.

“I’m so glad I finally caught him!“ — she exclaimed. ”I hope he didn’t bother you. He often runs away from home and tells people that he is John D. Rockefeller”.

The businessman just stood there feeling stunned. Throughout the preceding year he had been busy as a bee doing business, buying and selling, in the belief that at any moment he could use that half a million dollars to save himself if the situation demanded it.

Suddenly, he realised that it wasn’t money — real or imagined — that had turned his life around. It had been his new self-belief that had given him the strength to achieve all that he wanted.

So remember, be proactive. At the crucial moment, belief in yourself always plays a key role.

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P.s.: The Story isnt mine, i read it on Social media and found it riveting to post it on my blog.

Original Link: https://brightside.me/article/a-wonderful-little-parable-about-self-belief-44155/

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Kahlil Gibran Quote

“Progress lies not in enhancing what is, but in advancing toward what will be.”~Khalil Gibran

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