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The Blessing

“Why am i Still Living? What Wrong did i do to deserve such a Life?” asked Abhimanyu to his most loved Deity Lord Ganesha. Abhimanyu, A 9 year old Boy who now lived with his Maternal Grandparents in Nasik after losing his Entire Family when he was just 3, including his Parents to the infamous Earthquake in Bhuj, Gujarat. He miraculously was found unscathed while the Bodies of the Dead were being recovered from the Debris.

Thereafter His Custody was given to his Maternal Grandparents, who Loved him and tried to Raise him well, But He had undergone a lot of Trauma for a 9 Yr. Old Child and Depression, Fear of Acceptance and in the Process was losing out on the Ability to comprehend things. He would often stay away from Peers and had little or No Real Friends but for His Favourite Deity: Lord Ganesha

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So Everyday, He would visit the Ganesha Temple and talk for hours with the Shrine. He would complain about his Life and how he felt like a Burden to his Ailing Grandparents who lived with Bare Minimum Earnings but yet try to Give the Best of Everything to him. Lord Ganesha would simply smile back at him, or so he thought and often this resulted in him pleading and yelling at the Lord.

This day was different though, After he returned back from the Temple. He helped his Grandma make the flour for the Chapati, Ate with them, Drank the Milk and went to Sleep. But he kept tossing and turning and was unable to sleep, So he got up to have some Water. There he saw Lord Ganesha holding a Glass of Water for him. Ganesha said “Drink this my Friend!” Abhimanyu took the Glass from him and Drank the same. The Water tasted different as if soaked in Sweet nectar.

Abhimanyu said “I Hope this isn’t Sweet Poison to take me with you! I can’t go right now, Don’t want to leave my Nana-Naani at this age like this. I want to Do something in Life for them, before you take me away.” Ganesh ji smiled back and said “I know! Am not here to take you, You are my Dearest Friend and have lots to do in this Life for yourself, Your Family and The Society at Large. I just came to speak to you. One on One.. Man to Man talk”

Abhimanyu laughingly said “Ganesha you are only Half a Man and i am just 10 (Was his Birthday). So the Man to Man talk doesn’t really fit.  But Yeah, i would love to talk to you.” So Ganesha held his hand and took him outside the House where a Bright Red Bajaj Chetak was waiting for them. Lord Ganesha took the Handle and asked Abhimanyu to jump on to the back seat. Then Ganesh ji’s Scooter flew and  took him back in time to Bhuj just before the Earthquake and showed him a Visual of How His Parents saw the Ground shake and they vehemently ran to him, put him in a trunk with a Small Hole and took him to the Open Garden of their home as mortar collapsed and gave the Trunk a full blown push before they collapsed under the Debris.

Abhimanyu’s whole world spun in front of his eyes and he realized how much love and affection he was showered to when he was a Child. Ganesh ji asked “You really think you have a Bad Life? Come with me.” Then Ganesh ji took Abhimanyu to another Distant place where Abhimanyu saw Young Orphans being drugged, abused and Organs being removed and forced to become beggars by Mafia syndicates. Abhimanyu asked “You’ve opened my Eyes, My Lord but Why do you allow Butcherism by Mortals?” Ganesh ji replied “I Don’t play a Role in anyone’s Karma. The Consequences of Every Action is a Reaction. Their Karmic score will determine their Life ahead.”

Now Ganesh ji parked his Scooter atop a Tree in a nearby Forest and told Abhimanyu to ask Questions which he was carrying in his Heart. He would like to answer them all today.  Abhimanyu fell short of Words initially but then asked Ganesh ji “What Wrong did my Parents and Family do to deserve such a Death and why am i still Living? What is the Purpose of My Life?” Ganesh ji replied “Karma as i said is the Answer my friend, Not just of this Life but some are a Part of One’s Past Life too. You are living because you died at a Tender age in your Last Life when you tried saving a Baby Elephant from being Eaten alive by a herd of Crocodiles. The Mother Elephant was crying for Help as She was caught in a Deep Swamp and you heard it.” The Whole scene played out in front of them where a Young Boy jumped at the Head of a Crocodile and Threw Stones at them so the Baby Elephant got a Free side and he stomped his way out of the herd of Crocodiles but The Child fell in the Water in the Process and got Eaten by the Crocodiles.

Ganesh ji said Life is all about Karma and You are my Friend and Chosen one, Channel your Energy towards the Greater Good for People and see how this Life that you sometimes Curse would become the Most Beautiful thing in the World. Abhimanyu said “Will you Guide me?” Ganesh ji replied “Always!”

Abhimanyu that Night at a tender age found his Purpose in Life and a Friend for Life: Lord Ganesha.

 

 

 

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If Your Friend has done these Few things for you in this Zindagi.. Never Let Them GO!

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”~ Lisa Kleypas, Blue Eyed Devil

If Your Friend/ Philosopher Or Guide does any or all of these things.. Never Ever Let them go:

  • Calming Influence : Even a Well Balanced person occasionally loses their cool. We all have the ability at times to become very emotional and tense owing to sometimes intrinsic reasons and sometimes because of what’s going on around us and we cant quite control it. If you’re feeling anxiety, rage, sadness or just heavy stress, a person who can see you struggling and knows how to COMFORT you is a definite keeper
  • Understanding Your Humour: Laughter is a quintessential part of life, not only as a delightful cherry-on-top during good times, but also as a way of coping when things are hard or going badly. If you have someone in your life who understands your particular brand of HUMOUR be it Sarcasm, Rhetoric or Burn filled and can add, share, compliment and have fun in the laughter with you, hold on tight!
  • Common Interests/Hobbies: Everyone needs some HOBBIES in their life. The Fun and leisure activities we do outside of work and career allow us to unwind and release stress and tensions that build up from the pressures of the daily grind.When your Friend can be a part of these passions and activities and enjoy them right along with you, everybody wins.
  • Mutual Respect: Respect for each other is the trivial part of any good bond and relationship. It is built by honesty, reliability and trust. If both can truly RESPECT each other as people, even in the heat of a difficult argument or stubborn disagreement, the relationship will be Strong and almost unbreakable.
  • Accountability: In a Friendship, One should always do their best to support the other and embrace whatever their Friend chooses to do, but sometimes the best and healthiest way to support someone is to be HONEST with them and call a spade.. A Spade. A True Friend would never lie to you simply to spare your feelings or avoid confrontation. If someone really loves you, they’ll call you on your Possible Mistakes, and if you really love them back, you should be receptive to their criticism and know that it comes from True caring and concern.

am writing about Jug in my life for the #DearZindagi activity at BlogAdda. The Person surely knows who he is.. 😉 

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THIS Is The Simple Reason Why We Lose Interest In People Who Show Too Much Interest In Us

So, why then do we feel uninterested in the partners who see this “Better ness” in us? The answer lies in the depths of our being.

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On a very deep level, there’s a small part of each one of us that believes we are not worthy of being loved. It is this insecurity that makes you place a lesser value on yourself.

So, when a person desires this lesser value, we naturally place a lesser value on them.

The natural train of thought eventually reaches the conclusion of “there must be something wrong with you for liking someone like me.”

We do not live comfortably with this mindset. We live comfortably in “the chase” of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.

That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we’d rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.

As we can see, the natural inclination to avoid those who are interested in you happens for two main reasons: the need to better our offspring by partnering with someone who is “better,” and our own insecurities about how worthy we are of love.

The even bigger question now is: how can we use this understanding to better our lives and well-being? Having learned this, how many of us will start to give others a chance in lieu of rejection?

The ego is a hard thing to overcome, but if we can, we open ourselves up to a whole new realm of thinking.

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How many of us will strive to overcome insecurities for a chance at happiness?

Based on a Relationship article i came across at->

http://www.higherperspectives.com/lose-interest-2080894182.html?page=2

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Happy Women’s Day! A Gentleman’s Perspective..

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Some wonder where her Magic lies?
She’s Cute but not the Uber Glam types.
Some attempt to ask her but barely pay attention
Sexism for “The Few” has become the convention.

The Reach of her Arms, The Sway of her Hips..
The Stride in her Walk, The Smile on Her Lips.
She walks into a Room, All Calm as you may please
Some Stand Others want to fall down on their Knees.

The Tap of her Heels, the Flow of her Hair
Men try humbly to show her how much they care.
They say a Woman should be two things: Classy and Fabulous
Why then can’t Men be Sweet, Caring and Chivalrous?

I as a Man apologize for some Morons you may encounter
The Perverts, the Cat callers, the Jerks and the Stalker
Please don’t generalize.. Not all Men are the same!
A Select few cannot bring The Entire Race to Shame.

We’ve all graduated with our Values and Come a long way
The Person we all were yesterday introduced us to Our Today.
In the End I’d like to Quote .. Bill Maher
“Women cannot complain about men..
Until they start getting better taste in them.”

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Christmas Gift Suggestions!

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‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present ..’

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Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same
hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an
hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from
his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on
his back. The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their
homes, their jobs, their involvement in the
military service, where they had been on
vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the
window could sit up, he would pass the time by
describing to his roommate all the things he could
see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those
one hour periods where his world would be
broadened and enlivened by all the activity and
colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while
children sailed their model boats. Young lovers
walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour
and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen
in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in
exquisite details, the man on the other side of
the room would close his eyes and imagine this
picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window
described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band –
he could see it in his mind’s eye as the
gentleman by the window portrayed it with
descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring
water for their baths only to find the lifeless body
of the man by the window, who had died
peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital
attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man
asked if he could be moved next to the window.
The nurse was happy to make the switch, and
after making sure he was comfortable, she left
him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one
elbow to take his first look at the real world
outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window
besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have
compelled his deceased roommate who had
described such wonderful things outside this
window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and
could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage
you.’

Epilogue:
There is tremendous happiness in making others
happy, despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness
when shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things
you have that money can’t buy.
‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The
Present .’

The origin of this letter is unknown.

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Wonderful Ad Advocating the Need for Change in Societal Outlook towards Re-Marriage Feat. Minissha for Femina!

 

Brilliant Concept showing the Love, Emotional attachment and the Need to Move-On Post Death as Life doesn’t Stop there.  Wonderful Ad showing the Understanding Grown Up Daughter.. who is Happy to see Her Mother Re-Marry!

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Rumi Quote

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“Wash the dust from your soul and heart with wisdom’s water..”~ Rumi

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Why We Shout in Anger!

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WHY DO WE SHOUT WHEN ANGRY ????

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled ‘n asked.

‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper ‘n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other ‘n that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said.

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’

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Rumi Quote

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“You think because you understand ‘one’ you must also understand ‘two’, because one and one make two. But you must also understand ‘and’…”~ Rumi

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