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The Power of Empathy!!

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“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”~ Mahatma Gandhi

One Day a Rich Businessman, a Kashmiri Pandit in his Mid 50’s was traveling back to his Home after successfully completing a Big Business Deal in Singapore. On his Arrival at the Indira Gandhi International Airport’s Domestic Wing, He Saw a Breaking News: All Was Lost! His House and some others in his vicinity were burnt, sparked by Communal Hatred which transgressed after the Godhra Riots. A Religious Minority who was a Majority in Kashmir had burnt Houses & Hindu’s to avenge the Death of their kin in Gujarat.

This Newsflash ushered in a series of Desperate Phone calls from him to gather knowledge of his Family consisting of a 27 Year Old Son and Early 50’s Wife! Sadly Heartache was to follow, as he had lost them both in the Dastardly act of Inhumanity.

Rajesh Handoo, in a series of moments from Pure Happiness after achieving one of his Biggest Business Deals had experienced his Deepest Malaise. All Appeared Lost…

He rushed to his Home; Vendetta in the name of Revenge was all that he had in Mind. In a week’s time he rushed to avenge the Death… With a Country made Revolver in Hand, amidst the wee hours of dawn he entered a Colony, to kill as many as he could and Die in the Process.

Near the Entrance of the Colony, A “Janazaa” was fast approaching, he hid the Gun behind his back, as they crossed him, he decided that now was the time. He Open Fired and managed to Bruise someone’s leg, in his first amateur shot. The Country made Revolver took his toll on his old hand and the hand shook vigorously, unable to fire another shot.

Within Minutes, A Pool of People rushed towards him and he was rendered invalid within minutes and was subsequently out cold. Later, when he gains his consciousness back, he finds himself in a Hospital’s ICU, only to hear stories of how The Head of that Community had got him admitted there and had cooled off the animated mob.

Rameez, 24, who was a Part time Painter, had Painted his House a few times near Diwali when all was well. He identified Rajesh and was able to empathize with his State of Perdition; he was the one who calmed the Angry Mob! Also turned out that Rameez was the Person who had lost his Arm courtesy Rajesh’s Bullet and was now permanently disabled.

Rameez was Calm, while Rajesh Looked at him with Moist Eyes which admitted his Guilt from a Moment of Madness. Rajesh’s Leg was permanently cut too, by the Angry Mob, and he realized this when he tried to get up and admit his remorseful dastardly act nonetheless Rajesh explained to him why Vendetta was at that time High on his Agenda.

Rameez in a composed tone told him “I Know Everything, My Brother.. I Forgive You! Just Promise me that You’ll help another who needs reconditioning and Help, Plz Don’t Sympathize with them Empathize always.. and You’ll understand that I really did Nothing for You The Other Day..” No More Words needed.. there was Painful Silence in the Hospital Room.

“I learn from my own daughter that you don’t have to be awake to cry.”~ Jodi Picoult

*Few Months Later*

Rajesh had begun working back, and re-located to Delhi for Horrors of Kashmir now needed to be Left where they belonged to.. in the Trash bin of His Brain’s Memory!

Work made him travel to Pune expressway and while returning back, he noticed a small Child Foster Home Centre on the Left. In a Momentary decision, he asked the Driver to Stop, take the car a little back and Enter the Foster Home. There he asked to Visit the Children..

He Expressed his Desire to Adopt a Child, Procedure began and a few month’s later he was contacted to come and select from within the Children, when all legal clearances were made. He arrived and asked if he could see all the Kids, he could possibly Adopt.

A Line-Up of 10 Kids, was brought in front of him.. but Rajesh could not find the one he was looking for within them. Rajesh saw a Shadow from the Corner of his Eye, and he got inquisitive of who it may be.. The Strict appearing Clerk to his query replied “You don’t want that Kid. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other Kids would… But still if you wish to I’ll call him over”

The 13 Year Old was Called for and he Entered the Room in a Somewhat awkward manner, hobbling towards him trying to walk as quickly as he could.. turned out the Kid was suffering from Polio, and hence had Slight Problem in Walking! Rajesh had tears in his Eyes, The Clerk said “ See.. I Told You, You’ll…” Rajesh exclaimed “May I Adopt him Please!!” The Clerk was Amazed and wanted to ask.. Rajesh instantly rolled up one Leg of his Trouser and revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the Clerk, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need Someone who understands…”

The Clerk quizzed the Kid, with a Quaint Smile.. “ Rameez, Do You Like Mr. Rajesh here?” Rameez smiled and nodded to show his Approval..

“You Don’t Need Religion to Have Morals. If You cant determine Right from Wrong then You Lack Empathy Not Religion..”~ Unknown 

The Power of Empathy!!

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The Chain of Love!

“Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end..”~ Daisaku Ikeda

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, near shimla highway, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Car and got out. His Old Bike was still switched on when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? What if he was a Thief? He didn’t look safe.. infact he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in a side where it’s slightly warm? By the way, my name is Rajesh Lamba.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Rajesh crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack..  Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the tyre’s nuts, she walked near and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from Mumbai and was only a Tourist passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Rajesh just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Rajesh never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way..

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Rajesh added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

*Few Months Later*

The Old Lady was in Jaipur, for her Business. She had time in hand as she drove to the Hotel for the Meeting, She Felt Hungry and saw a Small Cafe along the way,  She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made it for the meeting. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Rajesh.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid Rs. 1000. The waitress quickly went to get change for her as her Bill was only for Rs.260, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”
Under the napkin were 10 more Rs.1000 notes.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….
She knew how worried her husband was, Working Hard Day in and Day Out and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Rajesh…”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

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“When you see a good person, think of becoming like her/him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.”~ Confucious

*Based on a Small Story i had read when i was young!

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A Short but Meaningful Story of Dreams…!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Story is about Three Hindu Men, Part Nomads Part Saints, who are devoted to the thought of finding God on their Search Trip across India. Obviously None of them is Earning & depend upon Whatever Food is offered to them by Virtue of Gift & at times as Alms! The Food offered to them was Rarely Lavish & Normally used to be Chapati’s (Flat Bread), Dal (Home Cooked Pulses) or Khichdi (Vegeterian Kedgeree).

One day across the outskirts of Varanasi, A Rich man saw them & came to ask for their Blessings, as he was planning to venture into a New Business, He Offered them Home Made Kheer, A Local Indian Sweet dish, relished across all genres of People in India. The Kheer was about Half a Bowl.

When the 3 Men thought of Eating it, they concluded it was too less to fulfill the tastebuds of all 3 & was infact, only enough to satisfy the Tastebuds of one of them. So they finally decided, that All 3 would sleep over & in the Morning, discuss their dreams. The One with the Most Beautiful Dream would get to eat the Kheer.

The Three of them try dozing off, but to no avail due to an empty stomach, So, in a Queer resolute, the 1st one Gets up & goes Riverside to imagine what he would tell the other 2 about his dream, in calmness & without the Noise of Snore, Soon after the 2nd one, decides to walk up the hill, to gather his thoughts & Paint his Dream beautifully, with words offcourse. The 3rd manages to sleep for a littlewhile but His Sleep is somewhat distraught too, So After a while, The 3rd one, who’s also the youngest decides to get up & when he sees that both his compatriots arent there, He in the Wake of Hunger, Eats the Kheer, wipes his face clean & puts back the Lid on the Bowl as it was & Sleeps Peacefully with a full stomach.

The Next Morning, When all three Wake up, after what seemed a Long Long Night & Anticipating to Savour the Taste of the Sweet Dish, they all sit down, do their Morning chores, Do their Prayers & sit over to discuss their Dreams…

The 1st to Narrate his Dream is the one who went towards the Riverside, He Begins “I had the Best Dream Yesternight, My Loved Deity, Ram came in my Dreams yesternight & I had the Pleasure of His Darshan, then he asked me What do you Wish my Son?.. to which I Replied, I wish to see Ayodhya & do Darshan of Sita Mata & see the Beautiful Countryside of my Beloved Deity, Shri Ram. Shri Ram said Tathastu (I Grant your Wish) and took me away to Ayodhya, where I Saw Pristine Happiness amongst the Countrymen, Hugged Brother Laxman & Bharat, and Greeted Sita Maiyya. I had such a Great time & am sure I have the Best Dream Ever.” As He Finished Narrating the Dream & Exuberantly Happy with it, he started to lean towards the Bowl of Kheer, to Grab & Eat it.

The 2nd one interrupted his Moment of Glory & said “You did Indeed have a Good Dream, but you guys Must Hear mine as it is the Best of them all”. He Further Began Narrating his Dream.. “In My Dream came the Most Enchanting & My Beloved Deity, Lord Krishna. He asked me What do you want to see?, I Replied that I wish to see His Virat Swaroop, followed by a Visit to Mathura, He Granted me the Wish & 1st showed me the Virat Roop, and then took me amidst the Gopi’s & the Serene Mathura, where I heard the chirruping of birds to Kanha’s symhony on the flute & Gopi’s dancing in a Trance to it. I had the best time ever..”

After, hearing this Narration, All eyes were at the 3rd one, He Calmly but Confidently began narrating his.. “I was awakened in my Dream by the Almighty Hanuman, the Deity I have such Strong Belief & Love for, He Woke me up & told me that He’s gonna make this Dream worth its way in Gold. Lord Hanuman, quickly blessed me & told me to Drink the Kheer, as it was full of his Vitality & Warmth, I intermittently asked that even my Friends wanted to Eat this, to which he Replied, One of them is with Prabhu Shri Ram & The Other one with Lord Krishna having the Best time of their Life, this Kheer is Paltry to the Joy they are experiencing, also, it was Blessed with Hanuman ji’s Vitality, Strength & Warmth and I was Refusing it? Hanuman ji asked me with Raised eyebrows, “Don’t you believe me??” How Could I Say No to the Almighty Wishes & thus I Drank”, Opening the Lid on the Bowl of Kheer & showing the empty Bowl…

The Remaining Two, with a Feeling of Disdain but not having an Answer to him, looked up & accepted the Order of the Day, with a Shake of the Head.  This Story teaches us the following, Being Street Smart i.e. Being Articulate & Smart enough to Manage things in a difficult situation & moving them towards one’s own advantage very tactfully & diplomatically, A Virtue quintessential to getting things done in the Current Worldly Scenario. It also Teaches us that We Shouldn’t only Dream, Dream of Action isnt Enough, Finding a Way to Paint your Dream in Reality is most important. Those who find a Way to Make their Dream a Reality are the ones who actually win, Others just keep Dreaming!! 😉 So, Dont Just Dream it.. Do It!!

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